CSAT-CPTT
The Canadian Sex Addiction Treatment (CSAT) and Canadian Partner Trauma Treatment (CPTT) website is a complementary referral service.
CSAT and CPTT is a unique, confidential, referral service to make your healing journey easier.
If you are seeking help, we can provide you with names of professionals like therapists, coaches and support groups in your area.
Reach out today and get the help you deserve.
Sex Addiction
Are you experiencing intimacy and relational issues due to sex and/or porn addiction?
Sex addiction is a serious and harmful condition resulting in significant suffering for the addict and the addict’s family. What separates non-harmful behaviors from addictive behaviors is that the addictive behaviors will cause great harm such as depression, anxiety, rage, anger, loss of relationships and/or financial security, to name a few.
The condition is often “out-of-control”, “compulsive,” or “dependent”. It is a behavior that interferes in every area of your life. It is impossible to manage or heal it alone. The more time that passes the more the addiction escalates. This eats away at the foundations of your life, keeping you in a cycle of hopelessness and despair.
Some of the areas that categorize a sex and/or porn addict is:
- repeated use of pornography
- virtual sex through on-line chat rooms, instant messaging, etc.
- paying for sex through escort services and other forms of prostitution
- sex with anonymous partners
- affairs
- compulsive masturbation
- serial monogamy – a history of short-lived, romantic, sexual relationships
- Being unable to stop viewing porn
- Spending large amounts of time viewing porn
- Lack of interest in usual activities
- Spending large amounts of money viewing porn
- Losing interest in your partner
- Experiencing difficulty with arousal
- Setting unrealistic expectations for sexual experiences
- Difficulty concentrating on anything
- Becoming angry when you can’t watch porn
- Using porn to cope with stress in life
Betrayed Partners
Are you experiencing depression, confusion, anxiety due to betrayal trauma?
You are not emotionally unstable, crazy, or unlovable, and you are not alone in this journey.
Understanding betrayal trauma is the first step in healing from your relationship crisis. Betrayal trauma happens when you experience a betrayal in your relationship that damages the safety, trust, and security of the bond you have with your partner.
When you uncover an unknown addiction or infidelity in the relationship, you can experience devastating emotional, mental, and physical consequences. Turning to someone or something outside your primary relationship, be it chronic porn, sex or affairs can destroy trust and a sense of safety, as they often include secrecy, omissions, gas-lighting, denial, minimization, risk-taking, and manipulation. Partners in crisis and distress from discovering such realities are struggling with betrayal trauma.
Here are six identifiable stages of recovery for partners of sex, porn, love addicts to help move along the road to recovery
- Developing/Pre-discovery
- Crisis/Decision/Information Gathering
- Shock
- Grief/Ambivalence
- Repair
- Growth
Betrayal trauma:
- No one is prepared for betrayal trauma.
- People in healthy relationships expect safety and security. Betrayal is a breach of security and can destroy your expectation or belief that your partner is supposed to be safe, is true to the things he or she says, including commitment to you, love for you, and prioritizing you and the family.
- Betrayal violates your trust in the person who betrayed you. The doubt and distrust can extend into other relationships, including trust in yourself and future romantic partnerships.
- Societal norms can often make you feel ashamed and embarrassed about the betrayal, causing you to isolate or internalize your struggles instead of reaching out to others for help.
- Many partners blame themselves
- You may experience the betrayal of “gaslighting,” which is a term used to describe the act of someone convincing you that your reality is not real.
- Symptoms of betrayal trauma includes low self-esteem, confusion, loss of identity, and—most importantly—an inability to trust your instincts.
- Friends and family often don’t understand the deep feelings around betrayal trauma.